Monday, 17 December 2012
Friday, 14 December 2012
Role of Good Appreciation and Rewards
Many parents wonder what the difference is between a bribe
and a reward. After all, in both instances, your child is getting something for
doing what you want him/ her to do. But what is good appreciation and what is bad,
that we need to figure out as parents. Because reward can take be turned as
bribery in the mind of the child.
It’s important to understand that bribery can become an
ongoing pattern that ultimately teaches your child to act out to get what they
want. We can see many parents who simply promise all manners of enticing treats
and activities in exchange for behaving appropriately. Parents end up feeling
as though they are desperately bribing their children to comply. Kids can come
to expect something extra for simply executing their daily responsibilities,
which can in turn lead to a false sense of entitlement.
To make things even more confusing, attempting to curtail
your child’s unruly actions by offering a bribe might actually seem like it’s
working in the moment. Take the classic example of a parent who is dutifully
trying to get her grocery shopping done while her kids are running wild through
the store. The parent is frustrated and embarrassed, so she proposes a deal: if
the kids will settle down and get through the shopping excursion, they will
each be given a candy bar. Great, it seems to work! But wait afterward, the
parent is left feeling played, and she soon discovers that this tactic leaves
her with a sense of powerlessness. This is because in this scenario, the
acting-out child has learned another method of maintaining control. You can
even think of this behavior as blackmail—you better give me a sweet payoff or
I’m going to make you suffer Kids will likely continue to use this strategy as
long as it is working for them.
To understand how good rewards work, it can be helpful to
think in terms of how the work world operates. You do your job and complete the
tasks that are required of your position, and your concrete reward is a
paycheck. So now it is your call to differentiate what is good behavior that
they have shown to be rewarded so that they get motivated to repeat it in
various situations. If teachers and schools
help in this along with parents it becomes easy for children to develop good
qualities.
Over Protection and Care makes Children Runaway Responsibilities
Abigail Van Buren once said If you want children to keep
their feet on the ground, put some responsibility on their shoulders. During
our parents’ days people used to be more responsible to each other, to society
and family. They had clear idea about their life and what they are aiming to
reach. But today’s generation does not realize their responsibilities and goal
of life and rather seem to enjoy their present. It is very easy for parents to
blame children on this matter and they say it is the attitude problem of this
generation.
But if we really look into it, are we not responsible for the
situation in which our children are there? It is over protection and cares we
have provided at various stage of life have made them paralyzed. We are
responsible for this situation and no one can run away from it. If we look
around us we can parents who are cleaning their children’s rooms, picking up
left-behind messes around the house, apologizing for their kids, easing their
disappointments, or even typing their teen’s school papers
because they could type faster. Isn’t this enough for children to get used to
not take any responsibilities on their own?
In order for children to learn how to do hard things, you
have to let them go through hard times. There is no way to truly master
something without experiencing it. These are a group of parents who clear all
the mistakes done by their children. But there is another group of parents who
try to prevent problems before they happen. They tend to monitor each and every
thing their children do and prevent them from enjoying their freedom.
So why is this happening I think that as technology expands
and our kids are exposed to more and more new things, parents get more anxious.
They want to protect their children from harm, which of course is their
responsibility. By doing so we are making them ‘good for nothing’. Whatever the
reason, it’s vital that we get children accustomed to fixing their own problems
and taking care of their own responsibilities because let’s face it— you simply
will not be able to fix their problems forever. Eventually, your child will
learn that if he acts like he can’t do it, someone will come around and do it
for him. This is what we call learned helplessness. Start handing some
responsibility back to your child today so that he can start learning how to
deal with this crazy thing called life. Other than parents schools can also instill
such qualities in children to know about their responsibilities. Thankfully we
have many schools in India who satisfies all these.
Friday, 7 December 2012
Theater workshop in Hyderabad - Musical Theater in Hyderabad
The greatest musical the world has ever listened and has watched on the celluloid is on the stage again. Sound of Music – the theater version of the 1965 classic epic is being recreated by Oakridge International School for the music lovers and theater enthusiasts of Hyderabad. For children and young adults, it will be a feast to experience those grandiose and larger-than-life sets on the theater.Come join to step into the soulful tunes of Sound of Music.
Date and Time: 11th Dec, 2012 7 PM
Venue: Shilpa Kala Vedika, Near Cyber Towers, HiTEC City, Hyderabad
Cost: Rs. 300/- - Platinum; Rs. 200/- - Gold and Rs. 100/- - Silver ( Platinum is near to the screen and Silver will be the balcony )
Tickets available : Bookmyshow.com, MeraEvents.com, all Cross word stores, Oakridge International School – Gachibowli and Bachupally campuses.
Contact: 1800-200-8171 for details.
Tuesday, 4 December 2012
The Role of Communication in the Growth Process of a Child
Bill Gates says “I'm a great believer that any tool
that enhances communication has profound effects in terms of how people can
learn from each other, and how they can achieve the kind of freedoms that
they're interested in.” Communication always helps to understand the world we
are living in and the world we are going too exposed to. The role communication plays in a human
being’s life is a historically known truth from Stone Age of mankind.
Good communication facilitates in better understanding and
especially in the case of children this helps them to be in touch with the
world they are belonging to. So what role communication plays in the growth of
any person is a comprehensive question which needs to be answered using
examples. When we go back to the ancient age when there was no communication
between human beings, the life was miserable. The way out was non verbal
communication through gestures and sounds. Then when people started thinking o leading
a civilized life there aroused the need for verbal communication for being
together with harmony.
From there onwards it is communication what lead the world
into the position what is available to us now. The basics of better
communication are provided to children from their family and elders and the
enhancement of it to match the outside world is given from schools. Top Hyderabad Schools and teachers can
motivate children a lot in this matter to create interest in them learn deeper
about languages and communication. Best
schools can be categorized according to the importance they give for the
overall growth of children through effective communication.
Effective communication can help in molding the behavior of
the children. Most of the problems with children can be solved if we spend some
time to sit and communicate with them. Above all it is good communication in
family which will create a joyful atmosphere in the family and in turn it will
assist children in setting up a broad mind and perspective while approaching
the world.
People say effective communication is 20% what you know and
80% how you feel about what you know. So it is from the surrounding world what
children learn to apply in their world. So it is crucial that communication has
to play the major role there. To effectively communicate, we must realize that
we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this
understanding as a guide to our communication with others.
How far Family Atmosphere Shape the Behavior of a Child
An ancient saying says: “The bond that links your true family
is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other's life.” Family
atmosphere is foundation behind every person and it leads to the character
development of them. Especially for children family is the mirror through which
they see the world. It gives them the initial understanding about the world
outside the window and from these bits and pieces they create their own
understanding and point of view.
People say a happy family is nothing but an early heaven.
There are some things which contribute to the better family atmosphere where
children can nurture. They are:
Relationship and
bonding: It is a
known fact that children learn from elders. The first and foremost
characteristic a child should learn is to love each other. For instilling this
quality in them, we have to make them understand what love is and why we love
each other. The love and affection which they experience and see in their
parents, grandparents, siblings and even friends will create an idea in the
mind of the child to show love towards others.
Culture and societal
values: It is very
important for all of us to follow social values as we are human beings. The
manners and behavior we carry forward for a harmonious living in society comes
the family and these are inevitable to be a part of the civilized society.
Culture adds more flavors into it to make our lives balanced.
Better understanding: As the family goes, so goes the
nation and so goes the whole world in which we live. It is the understanding
between each other makes it special. Parents should understand children and
children should be able to understand parents. Then it becomes a complete
family.
Joe Manchin says “Every child should have a
caring adult in their lives. And that's not always a biological parent or
family member. It may be a friend or neighbor. Often times it is a teacher.”
This is a very true statement as children always require care and protection. Sometimes
or with some people it might not be possible for the family to show that care
or they might not have a family at all. Schools
and teachers play a big role here to mold the child into the right path. When a
school or teacher succeeds in bringing up children to lead a happy and healthy
life in society they can be called the best
schools are teachers.
The love of family and the admiration of friends are much
more important than wealth and privilege.
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